Love Language #4 Acts of Service
Jesus peformed the most simple, yet profound act of service to his disciples. He washed their feet at the Last Supper. This is profound because in His time the servants washed the feets of their masters and guests as they arrived in the home.
Have you every heard that doing the littlest thing for someone can make the difference? They have a commerical where they show people doing ramdom acts of kindness to someone because someone did something nice for them. Acts of Service is the desire to want to do something for someone else or the desire for someone to helping you. Many often make this their lives work by working to help others through non-profit organizations or ministries.
So what is an act of service? It is changing a dirty diaper even though you have had a long day at work and you would rather be watching tv. It is helping out around the house or yard without it being on you "Honey Do" list. It can even be helping someone with the door or their groceries. Acts of Service require thought, planning, time, effort, energy, and positive thinking. It is not something you can buy.
If you are a person who likes to recieve acts of service, beware your partner may not know exactly what they may need to do for you. Requests can be given, but demands will stop the flow of love. Talk with your partner. Think of 3 or 4 things that they can do for you. After awhile you can also start to tell what they like. For example, I know my husband like to have dinner ready when he gets home from work. I also think he is trying to get me to make the kids bed every day because he keeps mentioning that his mother did it for him.
If you are a person who like to do acts of service I would recommend that you not limit yourself to giving to your family. There are so many others that are in need, but remember to make your family the priority.
Here are a couple thoughts to keep in minds about doing Acts of Service:
1. What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage. We return to the people we were before we met each other. My mom's advice to this is to watch how your partners parents treat each other. That may be somewhat of an indicator - even though its not always the case.
2.Criticism and demands drive a wedge in relationships. They might still do what you want, but its not an act of love.
3. Your partners criticisms will be a BIG indicator of your partners love language.
4. Don't be manipulated by fear or demands.
Finally, due to changes in society there is no longer a common sterotype of the male and female role in America. Men/boys can change diapers and vacuum. Women/Girls can mow the lawn and trim the bushes with the best of them.